…The extent to which it makes us uncomfortable to think about interpersonal relationships in such visceral terms can give us insights into how distant we are from faith, which does not involve assent to abstract principles but rather demands we enter into relationship with the divine through tangible, concrete matter…
Is there anything more urgent?
All we need is the tiniest bit of compassionate imagination to be able to see the problems posed by tribalism. The fact that so many in positions of authority (along with those who put them there) seem blind to the problem is the most devastating condemnation of our educational approaches and methodologies.
We face an educational emergency (I'll add, to be clear: both INSIDE and outside the Church, since the Church in this country mimics and adapts to the pedagogical aims of the state)…
On Using Cliches to Shed Light on Cliches
Many times the inverse of a thing is not its opposite. Also, sound psychological principles (such as: the importance of boundaries, or the typical dynamics in an abusive relationship, or how to overcome addictions, or the stages of grief etc.) are similar to other expressions of folk wisdom (“a stitch in time saves nine” or “a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush,” etc.) – they’re *mostly* true, but they cannot be viewed as facts. Human beings and human actions tend to fall outside of categories. People, situations, and interactions can surprise us. This is why we learn much, much more about human psychology from reading good literature than we do from reading psychology text books (or from memorizing cliches).
We find something so satisfying in thinking that we have, finally, the “answer.” But this is a trap.
Something analogous happens within Catholicism. People study doctrine or theology in an attempt to have clear answers. Then they apply what they’ve learned and feel as though they understand the ways of God.